Besides hopping from one holiday soiree to the next and kissing your love under the mistletoe every chance you get, one thing that often happens around the festive season is meeting your significant other’s parents for the first time! You may be excited, you may be nervous, you’re certainly curious, and for good reason! Not only do you learn a lot about someone by getting to know their family, you only get one chance to make a great first impression. In addition to being true to yourself, which is ever a Ruchette do, here are five tips for meeting the parents!
1. Dress to impress: You can be true to your style personality, whether you tend toward classic, rustic, girly, or retro, while dressing with a little more conservative polish. Meeting the parents is not the time to wear something too short or too trendy! Stick with a classic, sophisticated outfit if you want to win Mom and Dad’s approval.
2. Do your research: Meeting the parents requires as much research prep as any term paper! Ask questions about your partner’s parents beforehand. For example, you can ask how his parents met, what they do, where they’re from, what their hobbies are. The more you know about the parents before you meet them, the better equipped you’ll be to start a conversation about their love of travel or passion for gardening.
3. Ask questions: As with meeting anyone new, when you ask thoughtful questions it shows that you care about getting to know them. Ask a little sister about her college courses, or Mom about her book club, and they’ll instantly think you’re sweet and personable. But be sure to talk about yourself too, your interests and passions, so that they get a chance to know you as well. Just be sure the conversation seems balanced!
4. Un Petit Cadeau: Bring a little gift! It shouldn’t be anything over the top, but you can show that meeting the parents is meaningful to you by bringing along a nice bottle of wine, a bouquet of flowers, or some artisan chocolate truffles. Run your gift idea by your partner, that way you can find out whether they lean towards a particular wine region/varietal if you’re taking the vino route or make sure both parents like sweets if you plan on bringing chocolates.
5. Offer to help: If you are having dinner at their home, offering to help cook, set the table, or clean up at the end of the meal will definitely cast you in a good light as someone thoughtful and helpful! It’s the easiest way to show that you pitch in, and who doesn’t want someone like that in their family?
For such an important occasion, we hope everything goes as smooth and graceful as can be. And with these tips for meeting the parents in mind combined with your lovely personality, you’ll be sure to win a place in their hearts! Of course, don’t forget picking up that little gift that’s sure to make a perfect first impression. Take a peek in our gift guide for something to bring along with you!
Wishing you the merriest of holidays!