Have you ever noticed how a lot of the good stories start on a dark and stormy night? Well, my amazing story happened on a dark and starry night. But, I think it’s important to give you a little bit of back story before that romantic moment. Ramon and I met through a mutual friend; my almost brother and his close friend. I was instantly attracted to his gorgeous brown eyes, structured jaw and physique in general. We got talking and just couldn’t stop; talking four hours of that warm August night away. I was intrigued, amused and completely smitten. But honestly, I couldn’t see how it was going to work; him living three hours away in a different city and I planning on moving away for the last two years of college. But, as Ramon will tell you now, “I wasn’t about to let her go. She was the one I wanted.”
We began a long-distance friendship and it was the best thing that could have happened. Because of the distance, our relationship had to be founded on communication. We didn’t have a choice; we either talked to each other or…we didn’t. From the beginning there was definitely physical chemistry but, our relationship budded and grew in the hours of phone conversations, emails, and texts. We had so much in common, especially our mutual sold-out love for Christ. As the relationship moved from friends to something more, I became very cautious, not sure if I believed that "Mr. Right" could be so right. As flowers, cards, and small gifts began to arrive, I kept insisting to my mother that he was “just a nice guy and that the gifts really didn’t mean anything.” I wanted to make sure he was serious. My mom wanted to make sure I hadn't fallen and hit my head on something. Thank goodness Ramon boldly and unwaveringly persisted and gradually my respect and admiration turned into sincere and deep love for him. I discovered that when you know, you just know. We began a wonderful dating relationship and months later came "The Moment." It went something like this:
It was a dark and starry night. Not just any starry night, it was a beautiful northern Arizona night. If you have yet to see a northern Arizona sky at night, be sure to put that on your bucket list of things to do before you die. Minimal light pollution and humidity free mountain air contribute to your ability to gaze into a universe of twinkling stars. As a little girl, nestled under blankets between dad and mom in the backyard, we’d watch for shooting stars and satellites. Dad pointing out constellations and galaxies, Mom’s hot chocolate, Max’s warm doggy body curled up in the blankets. Those nights were some of the best and most treasured memories.
Years later, I was in the same backyard, wrapped in a different blanket, a different dog wanting to curl up in my lap and a very handsome man laid back in a lounger to my left. My boyfriend Ramon had driven up from Tucson to visit me and my family for the Fourth of July weekend. It had been the most relaxing evening; a casual dinner, ice-cream, playing around at a friend’s recording studio, and had ended in the backyard star gazing to a playlist of my favorite songs Ramon had put together.
Ramon suddenly pointed up and to the right, “Do you see that?”
I looked where he was pointing, “What am I looking at babe?”
He pointed again, “I think that’s a satellite.”
I followed his finger and saw it. “Love, that’s a plane. See the blinking red light on the right. It looks like it’s headed south to Phoenix.” Ramon oh-ed softly before exclaiming again.
“Look!! There’s one! Do you see it?” He was pointing to the left now.
I turned left and saw nothing but the vastness of stars. I honestly wondered if it was getting a tad bit late and that he might need to go indoors. “Um…I don’t see anything.” Ramon grabbed my dad’s green laser light, designed so you could see the whole beam in the dark. He shined it where his finger pointed. The green light glinted through a glittering object on his pointer finger and sent sparks of emerald twinkling into the night. My heart stopped.
He turned to me and in the dark I could see a soft smile on his face, “Did you see that?” I couldn’t say anything. He shined the light again and it became very clear that the star he was referring to, was a diamond engagement ring on his left pointer finger.
“Yes…I see it,” I whispered as my heart began to flutter quickly. Ramon got out of his lounger and down on one knee in front of me. He beautifully and passionately expressed his love, respect and desire to marry me. Can you guess what I said? “Yes! Yes! A million times yes.”
Our wedding day was absolutely wonderful, beautiful and everything I had hoped it would be. But, our marriage has been better than anything either of us could have forged up in our imaginations. It has been the most exciting, rewarding, and fulfilling journey I have ever been on. Today, pregnant with baby number one, we are even more excited about what the future holds. We allow each starry night to remind us of our love for each other, knowing that the best is yet to come.